Riding out your Bumpy Road
My eleven year old son Sam has had a “bumpy” school year, to say the least.
Let’s be honest here . . . Sam has had a bumpy school CAREER!
He’s not a trouble maker {I don’t even think he knows where the principal’s office is}.
He completes his assignments {enough to get by}.
He is well liked by his teachers {who are awesome by the way} and peers {he has a lot of friends}.
He just doesn’t fit the “mold.”
He calls his middle school “prison.” He thinks it’s a waste of time. He struggles to stay engaged and focused on information that he really doesn’t give a shit about. He begs to be home schooled on a regular basis. {sigh}
I could sit here and feel like a horrible mom for forcing him to go to “prison” everyday. I could feel guilty for not being willing or confident enough at the moment to take the leap into the home schooling world.
I could get frustrated at Sam because he doesn’t fit that damn “mold.”
Been there, done that . . . many times . . . and it just made Sam’s life and my life bumpier. {another long sigh}
So screw the guilt, frustration and horribleness . . . I am now focusing on what I can do to support Sam and empower him to ride out this bumpy road.
The mantra that is kicking my butt lately {in a good way} comes from “Cathedral of the Wild” by Boyd Varty . . . and I think it’s perfect for Sam and his bumpy road.
Know your truth.
Stick to the process.
Be free of the outcome.
Know your truth . . .
Yep, school sucks and it feels like a prison. Allow it, don’t fight it. Continue to search for things that DO interest you and do more of those {in school and out}. Be grateful you have found your authentic self and passion for dance and music . . . that is your truth, use that to ride out this bumpiness.
Stick to the process . . .
Hang in there, don’t give up. Know that we love you and are here holding a safe space for you. Trust the Universe and the journey that you are on . . . sometimes it will be bumpy but sometimes it will be smooth . . . make sure to appreciate both, there is always something to learn.
Be free of the outcome . . .
Live in this moment, the future is totally uncertain and out of your control. Don’t be attached to how you think you should turn out to be. You are just right, in this moment . . . an amazingly intelligent, witty, talented, and sensitive person who gives the best hugs, constantly teaches me new facts, and still loves to cuddle at night.
You are safe . . . you are supported . . . you are loved.
What is your bumpy road?
How have you been “riding it out?”
Is it working for you?
This will help . . .
Know your truth.
Stick to the process.
Be free of the outcome.
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