It’s been a minute since I last wrote to you . . . and I REALLY want to tell you that life is good- full of rainbows, adventures, joy & magical unicorns.
But to be completely TAO (transparent – authentic – open) life has been sucky lately . . . & what I REALLY want to be honest about is that I am in deep with my negative thought patterns and a bit of “mean girl talk.” Can any of you relate?
It’s not an easy thing to put out there (especially as a recovering perfectionist) but my life is FAR from perfect right now, and it’s a bit cringy to be writing this to you.
BUT . . . I am sensing that there are a lot of us feeling the same way right now . . . and I need you to know . . . you are not alone!
Life is hard.
People are mean.
Our world is burning up.
Winter is coming.
Yikes! Debbie Downer much???
The thing is – I KNOW what I need to do about my negative thoughts and “mean girl talk” – I just don’t know if I have the energy to follow through with it! -Sigh-
So I am going to keep this short and sweet “ish” because honestly, I really DON’T have the energy to do the work of shifting my negative thoughts right now – and that’s ok.
See what I did there? By adding the phrase “and that’s ok” I gave myself permission to accept my lack of energy in this moment. I’m tired dammit – it’s been a shitty couple of months and I am just worn out.
That doesn’t mean I will never have the energy to do the work on my “mean girl talk” and negative thought patterns or that I am using it as an excuse to just ignore the suckiness. It just gives me some space to exhale and be ok with where I am right now.
Just by writing this to you, my beautiful friends, I can feel something loosening around my heart (the heart chakra is the center for self love so no wonder it feels tight and stuck – it is NOT a fan of all this mean girl talk)!
Giving yourself permission to be ok with where you are and what you are feeling right NOW is f***ing powerful.
So now all we need to do is practice!
“I am not being a supportive partner . . . and that’s ok.”
“I am not taking care of my body as much as I should . . . and that’s ok.”
“I am not working hard enough as a coach . . . and that’s ok.”
Yup – these are some of my very real negative thoughts that I am believing are true at the moment. – sigh – cringe – sigh – But I am working on them even though I am damn tired – because I know it’s worth the freedom I will feel as these thoughts begin to let go of me.
So much more powerful information I could share with you about “Thought Work” (thank you Byron Katie and Martha Beck.) If you want to dig deeper and crave support from someone who is right there in it with you – reach out – I’m here for you! I will guide you through your negative thoughts and cheer you on when you stand solidly in your truth!
For now . . . just notice when a negative thought pops into your beautiful mind (there will be thousands a day) and see if you can just add . . “and that’s ok” to the end of one of those negative thoughts. And then notice –
How does your body feel?
How do you react to your circumstances?
How do you behave towards yourself and others?
Just start here and see how it feels – no judging – no comparing – no mean girl talk.
I will be practicing right along beside you my beautiful friends and remember – you are NOT alone!
As we practice this simple, yet powerful tool . . . my hope for you (and me) is that our life DOES have a few rainbows, some joyful moments, lots of love for ourselves and maybe even a magical unicorn!